Forget Saying I’m Sorry

When you do something wrong forget saying I’m sorry, just do the right thing.
Actions speak louder than words. Doing the right thing lets the other person know that you care enough to change. Will this make everything good? Not necessarily, but we have to ask ourselves one question.

Why is it that this person is upset with you? This individual is upset because they judged your capacity to do the right thing in this particular situation and you CHOSE not to. That very choice can only truly be corrected by choosing to do the right thing in the situations to come.

It is the fear of the habit that you’ll continue to make decisions similar to that initial event that really upsets people. Once you provide evidence that your occasional wrong doing isn’t a habit but merely a lapse in judgement, they have no choice but to forgive you because you allow them to recognize your complete body of work and all of its awesomeness!

Be RisFit!

Chris 😎

17 thoughts on “Forget Saying I’m Sorry

  1. I disagree with you in some sence. You’re right that a person who’ve done something bad has to do good in the situations to come, but the fact that you shouln’t say sorry for the mistakes that’s wrong. If you’ve done harm to a person you have to beg for forgiveness if you care about that human, you have to say I’m sorry and hope for being forgiven.
    And, in the end, you say that they (people) have no right not to firgive you. Actually, that’s their option an they are in charge of what to choose. If someone does something truly bad for me, with me whatever I do not give second chances without them saying sorry, because by saying that they understand their mistake and show that they care of me.
    Just expessing my thoughts here) Trully amazing post! I juust felt like sharing my ideas on that)) Thanks)

    1. Oh I totally agree with you. I wasn’t actually saying to refrain from ever saying sorry. I was merely suggesting that maybe we use sorry so much that we forget what it actually means. We forget that saying sorry implies that we messed up and were planning to do better. I’m simply saying that we can’t just expect to say sorry for everything and leave out the actions that prove we recognize our mistake and are doing things to fix them. One isn’t fit without the other as you say, but if we can’t have both and maybe one of those has to be lost in the mix, maybe actually saying sorry can be left out next time…
      Anyway love your input and I’m glad I was able to provoke some thought. I think what you said needed to be put out there so I’m glad you provided us with that πŸ™‚ Feel free to stop by anytime!

    2. I agree in totality because I believe the proper wording should be, “I apologize because… and in the future I will be sure to…” We cannot always simply undo our actions or correct what has been done, but we can insure that things will not happen the same way twice, right?

      We might not always have the opportunity to say the words I’m sorry [in the unfortunate event of death or some other instance] but we can always provide the sentiment of remorse and regret. And three are the rare events of strange encounters with unfamiliar situation/people that we feel the need to immediately explain our actions or improper wording [for example speaking to a gay or transgender person without the common sense to be sensitive to their feelings or using a racial slur among strangers that is normally ok within your own social circles].

      There are so many reasons why saying “I apologize” is the proper way to go and the only route you have open to correcting your unfortunate situation. Other times, you may have just been a Dick and in this instance- your apology would be harshly accepted.

      xoxo- Your Personal Blogger

      1. Well though out. Thanks for adding a little imagery with your analogy to give a better understanding of your stance. A bit vulgar but I get your point lol. Appreciate you stopping by!

      2. I totally agree with you. After apologizing you need to prove you are really sorry by never doing the action again. Thank you for thoughts) I love chatting with wordpressers)))

      3. Likewise! I greatly value the opinion you brought forth. Healthy discussion is extremely beneficial for the world. So high five for that teamwork ;). We’re awesome!

  2. I thought it was great! Short, sweet and very accurate. I’ve often told people to think about WHY the other person is saying whatever he/she is saying and not so much on WHAT they are saying. When in an argument we are so focused on “winning” that we neglect to realize that there probably is a very valid reason the other person is upset! πŸ™‚

    Great job.

    1. Yes! I agree! We do put too much emphasis on competition when we should be searching for a peaceful resolution sometimes. Thanks for commenting I appreciate the response!

  3. Great article thanks for sharing. The key is to say sorry and then change. Saying sorry is meaningless if you keep making the same mistakes. It shows real courage, commitment and strength of character to apologise and then make the effort to change.

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